How do you know when you actually love someone?


Is it because of the tingly feelings you get in your groin or is that just hormones? A biological reaction that lets you know that you have met a good mating partner and the chances of healthy offspring are high…

Is it the butterflies that you feel in your belly

when you think of them? Or is that just nerves because up until now you are still unsure if they are into you or if it is stable, there is still that element of slight and exciting danger?

Is it that mild tension you feel when you are with them that keeps you wanting to be your best and please them? Or is that just an old pattern of low self worth playing out because somewhere deep down you don’t believe you deserve them?

Is it a calm, relaxed feeling of friendliness and fun and kind regard for each other where you know that you can count on the other person? Or is this just familiarity?

Is it that over the top, mind blowing, heart expanding, buzzing in your ears, the colour has turned up in the whole world experience?

Or is this a brief altered state of touching something greater than yourself that occurs when you truly put someone else first that could also be achieved by service and devotion, and is not long term sustainable?

Or is love a choice?

Is it choosing some, or none of the above as necessities for you plus any other states like trust, honesty, respect and developing these in a relationship and then choosing to love that person?

I don’t know the answer to this question. If I did, I would probably go up in a puff of enlightened smoke. What I do know though, is that if you are choosing to spend your life with someone, then you do need to keep choosing to love them as an act.

So if you are still looking for ‘the one’ maybe it would be wise to consider, what is love to you?

Is it possible that you have been looking for love in all the wrong places?

That maybe you have been looking for one of the above things as a means to love when in actual fact, if you are looking for a life partner, it may be more whole and sustainable and loving to look for the person with whom you can create and choose to love…..

Just a thought.

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Thanks for reading, watching and sharing.

With love,